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  • Fall porch loading... I want to add some hay stacks, lanterns & maybe more pumpkins but then I’m like, nah looks good enough. If you watched my stories you know i have a long list of projects I’m trying to get done before Thanksgiving. Get ready for the home content.  Some of my projects include but not limited to is transforming Harper’s room into a big girl room, mini master bedroom makeover, new kitchen lights, powder room update and possible a guest bathroom renovation. Oh, I also gotta clean up before my family arrives. My head hurts thinking about it but I’m going to do the best I can.  #teamdoingthemost #heytrinashome #aldifinds
  • Tonight is the season finale of @davidmakesman and I’m on the edge of my seat.  Another important women in David’s life is his gifted class teacher Dr. Woods-Trap. She sees the potential in David and continues to guide him as much as she can at school, his safe haven. Teachers, coaches and mentors  play in important role in our children’s lives.  Peyton has a teacher that looks like her this year and Harper thinks her teachers are family members. I think most of us have a teacher that stands out whether it be elementary or college. I still remember the first teacher that I felt really cared about me.  Sometimes that’s all it takes. 
Make sure you tune in to David Makes Man or catch up on @owntv 9/8c #davidmakesman #ad
  • It was all good just a week ago. I brought in my birthday in Aruba for my friends wedding last week.  It’s been hard to get back to reality. I realized I’m in desperate need of a time management makeover but I don’t have the time 😩. Now that I’ve started @supermomculture, trying to balance that, life and blog hasn’t been easy.  If you have some time management hacks, please share 😘
  • Let me introduce you to the new learning playground, @tumblesjohnscreek. Harper celebrated her birthday there a couple of weeks ago. Tumbles has Indoor zipline, rock wall, play ground & STEM classes and more! They are the unicorn of indoor playgrounds! Sharing details from our experience on the blog.  They also have a Halloween parents night out.  Details on the blog or visit 
https://johnscreek.tumbles.net
  • Thank you @toyotausa for having me at the Culture of Gratitude Brunch celebrating women. Grateful to be in the room with so many awesome Black Women. So inspiring! #toyota #a3cfestival #a3c
  • Is there someone outside of your parents that you were able to confide or look up to when you were growing up? One of my favorite characters on @davidmakesman on @owntv is Mx. Elijah. People like Mx. Elijah, who are unapologetically themselves, can be instrumental as part of the village in a young persons life. Mx. Elijah is one of those people that you can confide in without being judged. My older sisters and my niece have been there for me like Mx. Elijah. They constantly look out for me and are there for me when I need them. It definitely takes a village.  Learn more about Mx. Elijah character on @davidmakesman on Wednesday 9/8c on #OWNTV #davidmakesman #ad
  • Thanking God for another year! These last 6 months have been rough but I thank God for keeping me covered. Celebrate with my by taking advantage of the @supermomculture hoodie sale! Ends tonight. #libraseason
  • Felt cute, might delete later (jokes). Lol 😂 I’ve been wanting to use that caption. Hello from #Aruba 👋🏾. Having a ball celebrating my friend nuptials. This is one lit wedding celebration (watch stories). Service isn’t great so trying to post when I can. Glad I was able to wear this @suakokobetty ensemble one more time before it gets cold. My bow tube top was on the clearance sale at Zara this past spring.
  • Your girls got a birthday coming up (10/8)! I’ll be celebrating in a tropical location this wknd for my friends wedding. I won’t need a hoodie but you guys will 😆. My birthday gift to you is a sale on @supermomculture hoodies! Link in profile.  I’m wearing a medium in the hoodie (unisex sizes)! ♎️ #supermomculture Wearing @thelipbar Hot Mama
  • My little fire chief wanted to inform you, along with @nfpadotorg, that #nationalfirepreventionweek is coming Oct 6-13. #NFPA has made it easy to teach kids on all levels about fire safety. Click link in profile for free games, videos and printables to help your kids learn more about fire safety.  You may learn something yourself. I know I did.  Have you discuss a fire safety plan with your kids? #ad
  • When you become a mother, you want the best for your kids.  Watching @davidmakesman on @OWNTV reminds me that no matter how challenging motherhood is, we never give up.  The character Gloria, who is a mother of two boys, is faced challenges trying to raise them on her own. No matter how hard it gets, she continues to work hard and fight for her kids to have a better life.  My mom was a "Gloria", never giving up when faced with challenges while she was trying to break a cycle.  I think we all know or maybe are a "Gloria" and can relate to her story very well! Tune in to the powerful series #DavidMakesMan on OWN on Wednesdays at 9/8c #AD
Anniversary Mamanista Marriage

11 Years + 11 Things No One Tells You About Marriage

October 27, 2018

Today I’m celebrating 11 years of marriage! ELEVEN…With the same man! I remember the days when being with someone for a year seemed like forever. I dated Mister for 2 1/2 years before he proposed. That felt like forever. I was like, what are you waiting for?! He must have sensed that I was about to be on some “Piss or get off the pot” situation because he proposed in the nick of time. Link to my proposal story will be below. Now that I made it year 11, still happy as can be, I thought I would share things that no one tells you about marriage.

  1. Marriage is not all puppies and rainbows. No matter how in love you are, marriage is hard work! It takes two to make it work.
  2. Everything is a negotiation. Something as simple as what type of toilet tissue can spark a debate. I learned I just pick your battles.
  3. You have to say sorry… even if you don’t think you did anything wrong. This one is the worse but it happens. Something you said or did that you would never think would hurt the others feeling might. You can’t tell them how to feel so just say sorry.
  4. You don’t have to do everything with your husband. I shared that my husband isn’t a good vacationer, so I leave him home. His idea of a fun night is hanging with his business executive friends talking… business. Mine is a night out with my girls enjoying Wutang!
  5. It’s easy to get wrapped up in motherhood and neglect your spouse. A newborn baby needs you more than anyone. But after you get in the routine, don’t forget to carve out time for your spouse. Even if its a quick kiss or just thank you.
  6. Outside influences can cause problems in your marriage. Once you get married, you can’t do SINGLE things. You wouldn’t want you man club hopping every weekend with his single friends, so you shouldn’t either. Don’t let single people tell you what’s wrong in your marriage.
  7. Sometimes you are the problem. This goes with “I’m sorry”. This is a hard pill to swallow but sometimes I’m the problem. After a few years into our marriage when we hit a rough patch, I had to look at myself and think about how I was contributing to the problem.
  8. Your spouse comes before everyone. This took a while for me to learn because I was raised by my mom with no examples of black love. I have to consider my husband before everyone and he does the same to me.
  9. Don’t let anyone talk bad about your spouse. As much as I vent to my friends about something minor my husband did, I won’t let them talk about my husband. Just like I would want him to check someone if they try to talk bad about me.
  10. You will think your spouse is selfish all the time. ALL THE TIME! But just like women want what we want, they have wants too. When you’re in a relationship, you have to be selfless sometimes.
  11. You still have to have sex. No matter how many kids you have, men still want sex…. as often as they can. Sometimes you are going to have to do IT even when you don’t feel like it. Talk to you spouse and come up with a number of times a week (yes, multiple times a week!) that works for both of you.

Those are the 11 things no one ever told me about marriage. As much as our marriage may look perfect we have had are ups and downs. I know in my heart no matter how bad an argument gets, we still truly love each other and we somehow find our way back to that happy place. Marriage is not easy but Mister makes me want to continue to be a better wife. I am thankful for another year of love with Mister. He is my heart and soul and I can’t imagine being without him. My friend wasn’t as lucky though, she is currently struggling with her husband, apparently, her husband is in this Limerence state with a woman he cheated on her with! But I digress.

In case you missed it, Mister and I did some Q&As in the previous years, you can find them HERE. Click HERE for the story on how we met and HERE for how he proposed. If you have any marriage questions, leave them in the comments. If I get enough, I will do a post.

 

 

  • Toia Barry
    October 28, 2018 at 11:44 pm

    Congrats on 11 years! We just celebrated 11 years back in August and I agree 100% with this list! Some of this definitely had to be learned over a couple years but that’s how it goes… constantly learning.

  • Lily
    October 30, 2018 at 10:56 am

    This is great advice. Thanks so much for sharing. Being single, it’s so easy to always put myself first and not want to compromise. Disappointments have also prevented me from wanting to make a huge effort. I’m glad you all made it work in spite of no examples of black love. Thank God you are one!

  • Natasha Holley
    November 4, 2018 at 6:06 am

    The list is spot on. Thanks Trina

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