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Journey to Mompreneurship

January 29, 2018

I hope you all had a great weekend.  My weekend consisted of Bingo Night at Peyton’s school on Friday, watching my BFF daughter play basketball Saturday morning and a blogging event on Sunday.  I also managed to catch up on laundry.  Juggling motherhood and a career is not easy for any mom.  One of the top emails or dm’s I get is how I became a Mompreneur or a full-time blogger.  I thought I would share my journey with you guys since some of you may be new around here and missed the glow-up LOL!  Here we go…

Dress, Suakoko Betty | Moto Jacket, Blank NYC | Boots, Stuart Wietzman

Allow me to reintroduce myself, my name is Trina and I grew up in a suburb right outside of Chicago.  I was never good in school because I had a hard time learning.  I would later learn (as an adult) that I suffered from dyslexia and never got the help I needed.  I barely graduated from high school but I was a smooth talker and made it out.  I studied Marketing at Southern Illinois University and graduated in 4 years and even made the deans list a few times.  I somehow figured out a to navigate through my learning struggles.

After college, I moved back home to Chicago with a job offer from Walgreens as an assistant manager.  That lasted about a month because it was hindering with my postgraduate social life in the city. Working nights and weekends wasn’t my style.  I quickly I found a job with an electronics company as a sales and marketing rep.  I killed it in sales at 21 years old.  I moved out and got my own place near the city.  A year later I was laid off.  They said I was the last one in, so I had to be the first to go.  Boo!  I got a little severance and unemployment that took care of me (barely) for a year.  I partied hard that year.  

Photos by K Visuals

After a year of unemployment, I took a job in logistics.  I barely knew what that was but I had the attitude that I could do anything so I took it.  In case you’re wondering, logistics is part of the supply chain focusing on transporting goods to the consumer.  I loved it!  After one year, another company offered me a job in Atlanta and I took it.

I jumped in my little pearl white Mitsubishi Eclipse and headed to Atlanta.  The job was awesome and I excelled at the age of 23.  Because I was dealing with trucks and trains all day, I yearned for a creative outlet.   I started networking and helping out with styling photo shoots for small magazines and videos.  I also got my business license and my mother and I started a virtual boutique that catered to the church ladies (big hats and blinged out suits).  I also started designing jewelry after I wanted a pair of chandelier earrings that I could never find in a store.  My handmade jewelry was carried in a few boutiques in Atlanta.  I was doing this for a few years all while working a full-time job. 

At 26 I met my future husband.  You can read our love story HERE.  After a few years, we got married.  Then we had a baby.  I was well in my 30s and switched jobs a few time but still working full-time.  I stopped doing the side hustles that I loved doing to get a handle on this motherhood journey.  When I had Peyton, I would search the web for the best baby products and sites that I later learned were called blogs popped up.  I thought it was cool that real people shared their mommy experience.

I was obsessed with styling Peyton in her little baby clothes that I would send emails with photo attachments to family.  This is before text messaging blew up. After I stop exclusively pumping I felt like I so much time on my hands.  Instead of getting rest (I was still working full time) I decided to click on an icon that said “free blog”.  I uploaded some photos of Peyton propped up on a pillow for her first outfit photos (HERE).  That was 7 years ago.

I continued working full-time in the transportation field because I loved it.  Making a living off of blogging was never a thought to me because of a few things.  First, I didn’t know you could even make money from blogging.  I blogged about 2 years before I received my first paid post and it was about $75 (woohoo).  I also made decent money on my job and I liked to shop.  My husband was also an entrepreneur at the time.  He had good months and bad months.  My steady income was something we could count on.  I kept pushing and blogging.  Things were great until it wasn’t.

There were some changes in management at my gig. I only mentioned my blog to a few co-workers.  As my blog grew more co-workers learned about my blog.  Some people even came over to my desk telling me how they loved my blog and they didn’t know I worked there. Then I was featured in a few magazines and a few higher-ups saw it.  Then it was ALL EYE ON ME.  “What is she doing, is she blogging at work?”,  “Does she have twitter open?” etc.  Seriously, the photos were clearly taken at home because my daughter didn’t work there… duh.  I kept having to defend myself against smart comments from my male counterparts.   Occasionally checking my blog email or twitter was over.  I made sure I didn’t give them any reason to say anything.

At this point, I was making some decent change from the blog but not my salary.  I was being flown out by brands to appear in videos and photos.  My vacation time was used for blog trips.  At this point, the blog started competing with my job.  One of them had to go.  I just prayed that it wasn’t my blog because it was such a part of me and where my passion was at that time.

My husband knew how unhappy I was because I felt I had a target on my back.  My husband took a great executive position doing something he loved so he was straight.  We sat down and came up with a plan.  Our plan was to pay off my personal debt (my husband didn’t have any).  We started knocking out bills with the money I was making.  We also paid off both of our cars (we’re team no car note).  Then we worked backward from my salary.  We subtracted the debt payments (which was high), car notes, and childcare.  That was my monthly goal to make with the blog and I was already making that. We also budgeted to live off of my husband’s income just in case I didn’t make any money.  Entrepreneurship has it’s ups and down.  Some months are dry like the desert. 

This whole process took a little over a year. I remember my team lead who I didn’t care for scheduled a yearly review with me.  I knew he had it out for me.  I told Mister I would be damned if I go out like that as hard as I worked.  So a few days before the review I handed my team lead my resignation. His first words were “Is it because of me?”.  Yes MF!  LOL, I didn’t say that but because I’m a professional and loved my field, I’m not going to burn bridges because I may have to go back.

That was  3 years ago!  Since then we’ve bought a new house and I had Harper.  Last year was my biggest year as a blogger. I thank all you for all your support.  Every like, comment, share, and click makes this blog what it is.  I will continue to work hard and grow this space that I created.  I’m sharing this story because, in this age of insta-fame and instant glow-up, people forget about the journey.  I worked hard on this blog for 5 years like it was already my full-time gig.  I stayed consistent and always tried to continue to grow and outdo myself, not anyone else.

Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you can’t pursue your passions.  We just have to work smarter and harder.  Kids won’t be little forever.  My husband reminds me of that all the time when I complain about Harper giving me a hard time during the day.  Worst case sceniero I can go back to work if something doesn’t work out.  We have real bills and kids to take care of.  Just communicate with you spouse and come up with a plan.

While I love this whole “BOSS” movement but most of these girls are young and don’t have kids so try not to get caught in that.  Also, don’t get caught up in the “you have to make time for what you want”  Nope… I’m responsible for two small humans, ma’am, there is no extra time, not even enough time.  I can say that for certain.  It’s also ok to press pause for your family.  This isn’t a race. Some days I get up and decide I just want to be a mom today.  No blogging or answering emails.

If there is one thing that I’ve learned in this process is that you have to have passion, stay consistent and work hard.  You have to be willing to do all those things, even if you don’t make any money.  Be willing to learn and grow.  If you have a passion, go for it.  It won’t be easy but it will be worth it.  Take your time.

Sorry this is so long. I usually don’t write posts this long but I wanted you guys to get the whole story.  Let me know if you have any questions you would like me to answer regarding momprenuership.  Leave them in the comments.

  • Mimi
    January 29, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    All of this. This isn’t a race and sometimes you lose but you keep running. This glow up microwave society when it comes to blogging is off putting and deceptive in my opinion. Thank you for sharing your full story, the transparency is beyond needed!

  • Earthangel172
    January 29, 2018 at 4:56 pm

    This is a great read! Very inspiring.

  • Nicole
    January 29, 2018 at 5:08 pm

    I love this post and I thank you for it! Although I don’t have blogging goals, I do have other goals I want for myself personally. I too, have three little humans to take care of along with my husband and use them as an excuse all too much why I’m not doing something (i.e. working out). I was an assistant manager at Walgreens for over 7 years and HATED it. I’m now a registered nurse and am so happy I took the leap and pursued a dream of mine. I love other moms who keep it real and thank you for being one of those people.

  • Glaudy
    January 29, 2018 at 5:17 pm

    Your story is so inspiring! How do you know what to write about and if it’s going to work for the blog? Do you take your own pictures and edit them yourself?

  • Angela
    January 29, 2018 at 5:23 pm

    Great share, Trina! I didn’t know your story prior to following you, so thank you for being so transparent and authentic. It’s appreciated.

  • Ebony telemacque
    January 29, 2018 at 10:31 pm

    Thanks for sharing very inspiring…seems like your reading my story except I’m not there yet I’m still at the working in Corp American being mommy and wifey stage. I would like to start a blog but where’s the time (writing this as my 2yrs walks in for milk) i hate my job but we still have car notes so to see someone else do it and be successful is inspiring and I know don’t give up on my passion and dreams

  • Rhonda
    January 30, 2018 at 7:38 am

    Heyyyyyy! I remember your whole journey!!! I am proud of you! You are such a needed voice to all women, moms and people period. Love ya. Peace.

  • Sarah Jones
    January 30, 2018 at 8:03 am

    Thanks for this & God Bless! This is confirmation for me that I’m doing the right thing for my family.

  • Mecca
    January 30, 2018 at 9:58 am

    very inspiring! I am relaunching my blog about being a new wife and now full-time blogger and this gives me hope. Of course, the trials and hurdles come with it but being consistent key! Loved this post

  • Toia Barry
    January 31, 2018 at 2:07 am

    This was a great read Trina! I’ve only been following you for about 3 years so I loved reading about how it all started. Thank you for this transparency! This was my fave: “Some days I get up and decide I just want to be a mom today.” Yes yes yes!

  • Melanie Smith
    January 31, 2018 at 3:26 pm

    I remember running into you at Publix and you saying you were about quit. That seems like just yesterday! Congrats on working your passion.

  • Tasheena
    February 2, 2018 at 1:12 am

    Trina, Thank you for being so transparent. I love every bit of your journey. You have always been real from the start and a true blogger star in my eyes. You’ve always kept a high standard with your blog. I too never knew you could make money from blogging. I just wanted something to do after graduate school. **shrugs shoulders** Thank you for being so motivating. I’ve seen you work with so many amazing brands. Truly, inspiring!

  • Dee Dee
    February 9, 2018 at 12:29 pm

    This is the best thing, in my opinion, you’ve ever written! I love your honesty and appreciate you for being transparent.

    Side note, as much as I adore Peyton, Harper is my girl! Viva la strong-willed girls!

  • Megan Lawless
    February 9, 2018 at 1:41 pm

    This was a great read! I have always loved your blog and started my first blog a long time ago after reading yours! (our oldest girls are almost the same age!) I formerly had Table for Three but now started a new blog. 🙂

  • Shalyce
    February 10, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey and being so transparent! This is so inspiring, and congrats on all of your success!

  • Angela
    April 13, 2018 at 7:01 pm

    Love that you told your whole story ? People only see the end result and think it’s so easy. Keep going, girl! I see you ?

  • Claudia
    July 13, 2018 at 1:16 am

    This was very inspirational and informative on how to make moves accordingly and when it’s the best time for us and our family. Thank you for sharing the story to help motivate moms who are wanting to pursue entrepreneurship a good picture to look at to show how hard work pays off!

  • Audra
    January 21, 2019 at 9:04 am

    It’s been almost a year later and your post is still inspiring! I’ve started and stop blogging so many times because “life” wasn’t falling into place like I wanted them to. Consistency and planning will get me further! Thanks!