• It’s been a week y’all! I’m emotionally drained that living while black is a crime.  I have a black husband that takes care of us and provides this beautiful home we live in. I also have to worry if he gets pulled over or “Karen” decides to call the police on him what the outcome would be. Or if it happens to me. Anyway, this weekend I decided I’m going to self care which means cleaning up. Take it easy on yourself. Take a break from social if you have to.  I had to leave IG alone and go to Pinterest.  It’s ok!
  • During these trying times, people have been going above and beyond and we want to thank them. #AD @Hallmark has beautiful cards to help us show our appreciation in a meaningful way. I think we can all agree that our appreciation for teachers is at an all-time high!  I'll be sending this beautiful card to Peyton's 4th-grade teacher.  As hard as homeschooling the last few months were, she was there even after hours to assist parents. Who would you like to send a special thanks to? You can purchase @hallmark cards online or grab a few when you're picking up essentials.  #cardsdomore Link in profile
  • The before doesn’t usually look like this.  Mister (bless his heart) has been cleaning the kitchen more and this is how he puts away the pans.  I didn’t say nothing because I’m not trying to discourage him 😩. I just cleaned it up.  He said it looks much better 😒. Looks like as long as he’s cleaning the kitchen I’ll just tidy up ever couple of days. We were supposed to get a custom system installed in this large corn cabinet but I never got around to it. This will do for now. PS, music stopped but you get the point 😆#quarantinecleaning #kitchenorganization
  • I miss outside 😩! If you know me in person you know I’m a extra-extrovert. Being out with the people shaking hands & kissing babies is what I do!  I kinda miss finding something cute to wear like this @suakokobetty kimono and shorts look. I think I’m turning into an social media introvert. Y’all know how i feel about introverts 😒😂. I don’t post as much as I used because I like the human energy. I sure we will get passed this! How are y’all coping socially? I’ll add a swipe up to my look in my stories.
  • Had to bring Mr. out of retirement to show y’all the new black on black Superdad! Father’s Day is coming and they need this drip. Also BOGO sale going on for Memorial Day wknd. Link in profile. supermomculture.com
  • Glad that’s over 😩. School is out for Quarantine Summer! Not sure what we’re going to do but I’m just happy to not have to log in teams and scan homework! So proud of how Peyton handled these few months.  She picked up a part time job with @supermomculture and got all her work done. In pray they will return in the fall 🙏🏿. 5th grade here we come!
  • I don’t know what today is but it’s always a good day for something with bacon in it! #AD Since every day feels like Blursday, I’m sharing details on my delicious Bacon Bagel sandwich on the blog!  @nationalporkboard wants to help you beat the Blursday blues by sending you some pre-cooked bacon!  Up to a 1000 people across the US will be selected!  Follow @nationalporkboard for details. Head to the blog, link in profile for my #baconforblursday recipe.  Let me know in the comments what’s your favorite dish with bacon?
  • When outside opens back up, I plan to have flawless skin! I have several affordable skincare products to share with you that I recently started using. Video features @pixibeauty @theordinary @versed and more! Book by @funmifetto. Do you have a new fave? Links to everything https://heytrina.com/shop/
  • Motherhood is something I wasn’t sure I wanted.  Look at me now! I was missing my mom today but overall I had a good day. Thank you for all@the love! @supermomculture showed out and I know that was my mom shining down. Hope you all had a great Mother’s Day!
  • For Mother’s Day Sunday my mom would have a new sharp suit laid out and she would have me run around Atlanta looking for a hat to match. I miss my mom so much. I find comfort in knowing that the very best parts of me are because of her. I feel her with me every day. 🌹
  • You guys have held me down this past year! Words of encouragement and supporting @supermomculture. I want to say thank you! I know I’ve been quiet but I’ve been working getting orders out.  Tonight we are going to celebrate US at 8pm on  @supermomculture Live! Grab your drink of choice and join me! #ipartiedatsupermothersday #clubsupermomculture
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5 Things I Learned from the Essence Path to Power

October 13, 2016

A few weeks ago I had the honor to sit on the Johnson & Johnson Path to Power panel for Essence Magazine in Atlanta.  After the initial shock of Essence considering me for the event, I accepted.  Growing up, Essence was my go to source to read encouraging stories about women that looked like me.  I still couldn’t wrap my head around why Essence choose me to sit on a panel with these successful women.  Then I reminded myself that I’ve been able to make something out of nothing, with no handouts.  So many women like me are trying to go down the same path.  I wanted to share some of the great tips and advice that was shared during the Path to Power discussion.

Moderator Charli Penn (Essence Senior Editor), Wanda Bryant Hope (Chief Diversity Officer Johnson & Johnson), Kandi Burruss (Celebrity Song Writer), Dr. Aeva Gaymon-Doomes (Physician), and Trina Small

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: Trina Small speaks at ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)

Don’t I look nervous?  I kept thinking I was going to fall off the stool.

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: (L-R) Charli Penn, Wanda Bryant Hope, Kandi Burruss, Aeva Gaymon-Doomes, and Trina Small speak at ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)

All the panelist were mothers so it was easy for us all to relate juggling a career and family.  Let’s get in to the discussion.

1.  My secret to self care.  For me, just being the best mom and wife I can be is my secret to self care.  If I stay in my own lane and just do me, it takes away the stress of trying to be someone I’m not.  Just because someones life looks perfect on Instagram doesn’t mean it is.  They struggle just like the rest of us, they just choose not to share those moments (which is ok).  I talked about this in my post about getting my life together HERE.  There are so many people telling you what you should be doing or how you should look.  Do what works for you and your family and you will be ok.

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: A general view of ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)2. Say No the first time.  Kandi Burruss (who is the coolest) shared that we should practice saying no first.  Let me explain.  Sometimes we’re asked to do something that we are not too excited about or maybe can’t do it at all but we say yes out of habit.  Then when the time comes we’re looking for ways out because we can’t or don’t want to do something.  The person you committed too is left hanging and disappointed.  If you start with a NO, you won’t have this problem.  If you come through it’s a pleasant surprise because you made it happen.  So if I tell you no, I still may show up : ).

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: A general view of ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)

3. Outsource.  Chief Diversity Officer Johnson & Johnson, Wanda Bryant Hope shared with us that she outsources things on her to do list that she doesn’t have time (or want) to do.  If my budget allows, I’m going to do this more often.  Outside of cleaning, can also take advantage of apps that provide meal delivery and grocery pick up services.

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: A general view at ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)

4.  Block out time for family.  Dr. Aeva Gaymon-Doomes stressed the importance of blocking out time.  She shared that only family activities are allowed on Sundays.  That means no practice, meetings or anything that takes someone away from that family time.  It doesn’t happen often for my family, but those Saturdays or Sundays when we do not have any commitments are awesome.  We can eat meals together, play at the park or watch a movie.  I’m going to try and block out more time for my family.

5.  Just start.  A woman in the audience shared her dream business with us but didn’t know where to start.  Kandi and I both shared that she just needed to start.  Sometimes we can talk ourselves out of pursuing our dreams because everything is not in place or we don’t have the resources.  A pen and paper doesn’t cost anything (well maybe a dollar).  Start writing down your plan.  They’re are plenty of things you can do with a few dollars.  Buy your domain, research the industry, start working on your social media, and find a mentor.  Don’t just wait for something to happen, you can start moving in that direction.

ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 15: Trina Small attends ESSENCE And Johnson & Johnson's Path To Power at Ventanas on September 15, 2016 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images for Essence)

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I know I’ve been on this empowerment kick and I hope you’re enjoying it.  I’m realizing that my space on the web is much more that just cute baby clothes and skincare products (that’s not going anywhere).  I know God has a greater purpose for my voice and I plan to use it.  Being a mom is tough but that doesn’t mean we have to give up on our passions and dreams.  I pray that these tips can help someone in their Path to Power.

I met so many wonderful women that encouraged me as well.  I appreciate Essence and Johnson & Johnson for having me on the panel.  If you have any Path to Power tips please share in the comments.

  • Shilene
    October 13, 2016 at 10:08 am

    This is a very good blog post and thank you for sharing. I’ve learned to do it afraid! I started a business & website two years and never completed it. My wedding/ event planning and consulting. I have the experience and talent but I lacked the confidence to carry out my dream. I started making plans to revive my dream, rebrand and update the website. I plan to launch it early 2017 to catch the 2016 holiday proposals. I’m so excited!

  • Carissa
    October 13, 2016 at 10:47 am

    Congratulations Trina!!! This is an amazing opportunity!! And I love it when you said “why not you”…I totally agree!!! We talk ourselves out of stuff so fast but what God has for you is for you, and sometimes He has to make you uncomfortable to take you to the next level! Go Girl!!! Loved the post!!!

  • Lauren
    October 13, 2016 at 2:29 pm

    You know I am LOVING these posts and I can totally relate. I am trying to get things off the ground and make it work and well…LIFE. But seeing other people say that they have the same struggles & fears is encouraging and lets me know I am on the right path. You look amazing and you deserve to be on that panel lady, I KNOW that you rocked it! Go Trina!!!

  • Whitney N. James
    October 13, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    Great tips. I love them all, but my fave is blocking out time for family. I think that is so important. We can get so consumed in work that we often forget to spend time with the ones who really matter. I’ve had to learn how to balance family/work and to be honest, it’s a constant battle to balance. But I work hard to make time.

    You look great and congrats again. Sounds like an AMAZING and uplifting event!

  • Charlotte
    October 18, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    I was once invited to an event and could not understand why they wanted me there out of all the bloggers that are available in my city. It’s so easy to believe the lies of the enemy. Your voice has been one that has encouraged many bloggers as myself. What a wonderful post Trina. excited to read more like this! Be blessed!

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