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  • Fall porch loading... I want to add some hay stacks, lanterns & maybe more pumpkins but then I’m like, nah looks good enough. If you watched my stories you know i have a long list of projects I’m trying to get done before Thanksgiving. Get ready for the home content.  Some of my projects include but not limited to is transforming Harper’s room into a big girl room, mini master bedroom makeover, new kitchen lights, powder room update and possible a guest bathroom renovation. Oh, I also gotta clean up before my family arrives. My head hurts thinking about it but I’m going to do the best I can.  #teamdoingthemost #heytrinashome
  • Tonight is the season finale of @davidmakesman and I’m on the edge of my seat.  Another important women in David’s life is his gifted class teacher Dr. Woods-Trap. She sees the potential in David and continues to guide him as much as she can at school, his safe haven. Teachers, coaches and mentors  play in important role in our children’s lives.  Peyton has a teacher that looks like her this year and Harper thinks her teachers are family members. I think most of us have a teacher that stands out whether it be elementary or college. I still remember the first teacher that I felt really cared about me.  Sometimes that’s all it takes. 
Make sure you tune in to David Makes Man or catch up on @owntv 9/8c #davidmakesman #ad
  • It was all good just a week ago. I brought in my birthday in Aruba for my friends wedding last week.  It’s been hard to get back to reality. I realized I’m in desperate need of a time management makeover but I don’t have the time 😩. Now that I’ve started @supermomculture, trying to balance that, life and blog hasn’t been easy.  If you have some time management hacks, please share 😘
  • Let me introduce you to the new learning playground, @tumblesjohnscreek. Harper celebrated her birthday there a couple of weeks ago. Tumbles has Indoor zipline, rock wall, play ground & STEM classes and more! They are the unicorn of indoor playgrounds! Sharing details from our experience on the blog.  They also have a Halloween parents night out.  Details on the blog or visit 
https://johnscreek.tumbles.net
  • Thank you @toyotausa for having me at the Culture of Gratitude Brunch celebrating women. Grateful to be in the room with so many awesome Black Women. So inspiring! #toyota #a3cfestival #a3c
  • Is there someone outside of your parents that you were able to confide or look up to when you were growing up? One of my favorite characters on @davidmakesman on @owntv is Mx. Elijah. People like Mx. Elijah, who are unapologetically themselves, can be instrumental as part of the village in a young persons life. Mx. Elijah is one of those people that you can confide in without being judged. My older sisters and my niece have been there for me like Mx. Elijah. They constantly look out for me and are there for me when I need them. It definitely takes a village.  Learn more about Mx. Elijah character on @davidmakesman on Wednesday 9/8c on #OWNTV #davidmakesman #ad
  • Thanking God for another year! These last 6 months have been rough but I thank God for keeping me covered. Celebrate with my by taking advantage of the @supermomculture hoodie sale! Ends tonight. #libraseason
  • Felt cute, might delete later (jokes). Lol 😂 I’ve been wanting to use that caption. Hello from #Aruba 👋🏾. Having a ball celebrating my friend nuptials. This is one lit wedding celebration (watch stories). Service isn’t great so trying to post when I can. Glad I was able to wear this @suakokobetty ensemble one more time before it gets cold. My bow tube top was on the clearance sale at Zara this past spring.
  • Your girls got a birthday coming up (10/8)! I’ll be celebrating in a tropical location this wknd for my friends wedding. I won’t need a hoodie but you guys will 😆. My birthday gift to you is a sale on @supermomculture hoodies! Link in profile.  I’m wearing a medium in the hoodie (unisex sizes)! ♎️ #supermomculture Wearing @thelipbar Hot Mama
  • My little fire chief wanted to inform you, along with @nfpadotorg, that #nationalfirepreventionweek is coming Oct 6-13. #NFPA has made it easy to teach kids on all levels about fire safety. Click link in profile for free games, videos and printables to help your kids learn more about fire safety.  You may learn something yourself. I know I did.  Have you discuss a fire safety plan with your kids? #ad
  • When you become a mother, you want the best for your kids.  Watching @davidmakesman on @OWNTV reminds me that no matter how challenging motherhood is, we never give up.  The character Gloria, who is a mother of two boys, is faced challenges trying to raise them on her own. No matter how hard it gets, she continues to work hard and fight for her kids to have a better life.  My mom was a "Gloria", never giving up when faced with challenges while she was trying to break a cycle.  I think we all know or maybe are a "Gloria" and can relate to her story very well! Tune in to the powerful series #DavidMakesMan on OWN on Wednesdays at 9/8c #AD
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Black Love: What I’ve Learned From 10 Years of Marriage

October 30, 2017

I’m still on a high from celebrating my 10 year anniversary. We enjoyed a wonderful night of wine and dining in Buckhead. Mister is known to pull out the romantic stops and he did not disappoint. It seriously felt like our wedding night again. I’m not gonna lie but I feel like I have a little marriage swag now that I’ve hit 10 years happily married. I’m not saying that my marriage has been perfect all 10 years. We’ve had some bumps in the road along the way dealing with communication, family, and finances. I’m happy to report that I am more in love with this man today than I have ever been. With no examples of #BlackLove around me, it is by God’s grace that I’m here. I thought I would share what I’ve learned over the years that have kept our love strong and growing. Materialistic items are great, but the things I’m about to mention are much more important.

  • Don’t compare your marriage to other marriages. I see the hashtag #RelationshipGoals on every photo of a good looking couple kissing. You don’t know what people have gone through to get there or if you’re willing to do it. My husband is an angel, so I give him most of the credit for our happy marriage and follow his lead. Everyone is different and our tolerance levels are different. I also don’t stay mad long so my husband lucked out with that.
  • Have sex often. Sex is a big part of a marriage. If you’re not having sex, you’re going to have problems. My husband would like it daily but we have settled on a realistic amount of times per week. Sometimes we hit that number, sometimes we don’t but we try. If either of you aren’t quite in the mood, perhaps adult content from somewhere like Tube v Sex could be used to try and get both of you sexually excited.

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  • Initiate sex. We don’t always have to wait to for men tap us on the shoulder. Sometimes we should take the initiative. Everyone wants to feel wanted and desired, that includes our husbands. Sometimes it might even be a good idea to spice up the bedroom with a silicone love doll but talk to him about it first, communication is import for any sexual explorations.
  • Practice random acts of kindness. I love nothing more than to get a text in the middle of the day from my husband telling me he loves me and that I’m a great mom even though when he left me I had on ratty sweats and a bonnet on my head. I’ve followed his lead by sending him random I love you texts and messages of appreciation.
  • Pick your battles. This is super important. I don’t have the time and energy to fight everything that I don’t agree with. I save that for the big ones. Fighting every little thing is exhausting and will come off as nagging. I just say “If you think that’s best” so if it fails, he’ll know the next time *wink*!
  • Everything isn’t always 50/50. As mothers, we carry most of the load of the household and children. It is what it is. My husband works a lot and I hold it down while he’s gone. I get frustrated about mom life but when he’s home he tries his best to take things off my plate. We just need to make sure we schedule some much needed self care time away from the family to recharge.
  • Be your husbands biggest cheerleader. My husband says that I’m really good at this. I was a cheerleader in high school soooo. We need to continue to uplift our men because if we don’t who will (besides thots lol!).
  • Tackle problems together. It can be hard but try your best to work as a team when your families face challenges. We’ve dealt with unemployment and financial hardships a few times since we got married. There were times when I had to hold it down and vice versus. Now I’m at home with the girls. If I had to (I don’t want to) I would go back to work if needed. We’re a team.
  • Read the 5 Love Languages. Every couple should read this book. I read this book for a book club when I was just dating Mister. It really helps you understand that everyone feels loved in different ways. You’ll notice changes when you start speaking your partners love language.
  • Look at yourself. This ties in with love languages. What are you doing to make the marriage better? What could you be doing differently? If things don’t work out, at least you know you tried.
  • Don’t be selfish. You can’t be selfish in a marriage. Coincidently at church this Sunday, they were wrapping up the series of what Happy Couples Know. It basically boils downs to happy couples give and love without expecting anything in return. We both give 100% regardless of what we think the other is doing.
  • Marriage doesn’t change people. One of the biggest choices you make in marriage is who you marry. If the person you decide to marry is selfish before marriage, it will be magnified once you are married. Walking down the aisle doesn’t make things go away.

If you would have shared these things with me before meeting Mister, I would have been like “Girl, please! He better do this, this and this. I’m not doing this or that.” I have grown so much since meeting my husband. I always say he’s my angle because I think he’s perfect (90% of the time). He makes me want to be a better person. He says the same about me and I don’t know why. Back to my church sermon, they said that happy couples continue to think more of the other person than themselves.

I’m not sharing all this the brag about how in love I am but to encourage others. Black Love is amazing but we have to want it and work for it. I’ve shared stories about my relationship with my father that was only the last 2 years of his life. I never saw any positive examples of black love. God sent me my husband and I knew I didn’t want to mess it up. I don’t claim to be the perfect wife. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve tried to learn from them. Getting married is easy, staying married is the hard part. I hope this post helps or encourage someone.

I’ll be sharing answers to your relationship questions soon. I promise I’m not turning into a “wife” coach but I’ve kissed a lot of frogs and dogs so I know bad relationships very well. I to share and I would be wrong if I didn’t share this. Please feel free to share your marriage tips in the comments. Feel free to share this post.

  • Narisa Lloyd
    October 30, 2017 at 2:20 pm

    This post was right on time, thank you!🙏🏽

  • Kim Lucretia Edwards
    October 30, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Well written piece! Loved it. Was very helpful

  • Ima
    October 30, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    So good!!!! Honest and a great reminder for us newer wives 🙂

  • Ivory Toomer
    October 30, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    You are so real and honest. I love that about you and your blog. You are my BFF in my head. We even share the same Anniversary. Ours is 10-27-12. Keep going and being real! Sometimes

  • Buzybeekm
    October 30, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    Thanks for sharing and being so transparent! I couldn’t agree more with all of your advice.

  • Bobbie
    October 30, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    Trina, I’m not married-yet, but I will definately keeo your advice in the fore front of my mind when my time comes around. Thank you for always being so transparent

  • Cristine
    October 31, 2017 at 11:14 am

    This is so helpful. As a newlywed, we’re enjoying both the newlywed bliss and drama LOL. Thank you for sharing and being transparent! Happy 10 Years to you and your husband. <3

  • Kesha
    October 31, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    Excellent advice! Loved it!

  • Ayana
    November 1, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    YES!!!!! Such great advice!!

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